Sexual Harassment
What's the Problem?
Some people suggest that sexual harassment is not a problem, that it is blown out of proportion, and that it is simply an appreciation of women. Here are some responses to those comments.
1. What's wrong with a little admiration? Women like to be complimented.
Compliments are meant to make a person feel good. If a comment hurts, then by definition, it isn't a compliment.
2. Men have a right to express themselves freely... it's freedom of speech.
An individual's right to freedom of speech does not include the right to harm another person.
3. In some cultures sexual harassment is acceptable.
Cultural differences cannot be used as an excuse for abusive behaviour.
4. Women shouldn't dress like "that," they should know that it will turn someone on.
Accusing women of inviting sexual harassment because of their appearance or behaviour is a blatant example of blaming the victim instead of the harasser. Women should not have to change to avoid abuse. Moreover, women endure sexual harassment no matter what they wear.
5. Women who object have no sense of humour.
Sexual harassment is not humorous because it is harmful. It is degrading, humiliating, and may jeopardize the woman's employment, finances, emotional and psychological health.
6. That's just the way men are. Women are making a big deal out of nothing.
Many men are insulted by the assertion that they are naturally abusive. Not all men sexually harass women. The physical and emotional stress experienced by many women who are sexually harassed means that sexual harassment is a big deal. It hurts the receiver and should not be tolerated.
7. Sexual Harassment and Flirting: What's the difference?
Sometimes it's hard to tell when a person has crossed the line from flirting to harassment. To figure out the difference consider why the person is doing it and how it makes the person feel. Here are some other clues:
Sexual Harassment
1. Makes the receiver feel demeaned, humiliated, embarrassed and powerless.
2. Effects can be negative self-esteem, physical ailments and financial instability.
3. Is perceived as one-sided and degrading
4. Unwanted
5. Motivated by dominance and power
Flirting
1. Makes the receiver feel good, flattered, attractive, and powerful.
2. Effects can be positive self-esteem, excitement, and a new relationship.
3. Is perceived as equal and a compliment
4. Generally wanted
5. Motivated by interest and equality